Aging Well: High Maintenance Monkeys

Robert Beckum

I will never forget Helen. At age 80, she was the oldest person in our group. We were to introduce ourselves with a story—-any story that would “open a window” on our life or our experience. Everyone had shared a story except Helen. She protested that she didn’t have a story. She was a homemaker and felt her rather “ordinary life” didn’t have any stories that would interest anyone. “Try us”, we said. “I really cannot think of anything…except the time my husband sold our pet monkey to Elvis Presley.” Trust me, when someone has a story about selling a monkey to Elvis, I am all ears!

Helen stated she and her husband, Bill, were neighbors of Elvis in Memphis. Bill owned a television station and had always insisted on doing the weather segment of the local news himself. He was a quite a character and always appeared on camera with his pet monkey on his shoulder—-affectionately known to the viewing audience as the Weather Monkey. Helen explained, “Elvis thought the monkey was hilarious and begged Bill to sell him the monkey. Finally, Bill gave in and sold it to Elvis.” She went on to tell the monkey “toured” with Elvis for about six months. Once back home from the tour, Elvis came over and pleaded with Bill to take the monkey back. According to Elvis, “He’s cute, but he is one high maintenance monkey!” Needless to say, we all listened with rapt attention. Beyond the fascination with the Elvis connection, we assured Helen all of us could identify with the experience of finally getting what we had longed for only to end up with a “high maintenance monkey” on our back.
Stories have power—-power to share, power to touch, power to connect with the human experience. Unfortunately, many older adults, like Helen, don’t think they have a story or that anyone would care to hear it. Truthfully, older adults are treasure troves of stories, and when we take time to listen, this treasure enriches everyone’s life.

Part of the Renaissance Program (a signature program of creative arts for senior adults) at Magnolia Manor involves writing. In these writing classes we encourage and coach seniors to share their stories. It is not just another “activity to keep the old folks busy”. It is one of the most enriching, healing and meaningful aspects of our life together. Some stories are light-hearted and hilarious. Others are poignant and heartbreaking. All of them are powerful.Heard any good stories lately? Start by asking a senior adult to tell you theirs. You will not only be enriched but entertained. Their story will open a window on the soul—-yours as well as theirs. In the midst of all the story telling we might even hear hints of a larger story that tells us who we are, where we came from and where we are going. Christians who have told this story have always called it “the gospel.”

Rev. Robert Beckum is Vice President of Church Relations and Development Magnolia Manor.